Thoughts about long distance relationships

A long distance relationship is a special type of relationship, there’s no other relationship quite like it. It’s funny how a lot of people never seem to understand it and always look down upon it, thinking that it’s not a ‘real’ relationship - what people fail to realise is that in a LDR, the bond you share with your significant other is incredibly strong (it has to be strong for it to last). That bond is special; it’s not like what you have in a physical relationship when the person can be right beside you. It’s rewarding in the sense that there are moments in the relationship when you think about just how close you and your significant other are but at the same time, you can be so far apart, even thousands of miles.

In a LDR, physical attraction cannot sustain a relationship; instead, it’s the emotional and mental attraction and attachment between the two people that make it successful. It’s a whole lot of hard work when all you have are words, pictures, and occasionally phone calls/video chats. It’s where you can’t just get by; you actually have to make effort to make things work. Time is never on your side and it never feels that there is quite enough of it, especially with the time difference and distance is truly a bitch. Love, trust, understanding, and patience are tested on a daily basis in a LDR - only the presence of these in ample amounts will see the hard times through.

There are so many challenges and obstacles that must be overcome but it’s also something that’s very rewarding because you share something with your significant other that is completely different from anything else you’ve experienced before and it is at another level compared to any other type of relationship.

Nobody ever ‘chooses’ to be in a LDR, it just ‘happens’. People in these relationships aren’t lonely, have lives, and aren’t desperate. They don’t go for something like this because they just want a person to like/love them - if somebody wanted that, there are much easier ways of getting it. When two people are absolutely perfect for each other, nobody else is good enough or worth the time, and if that person unfortunately lives half way across the world, then a LDR is bound to be formed.

In circumstances like these, you realise that physical attraction is so insignificant compared to the connection the two people share. Even if the other person is oceans apart from you, the love between the two people can bridge any gap, whether it be a 3 hour drive or a 15 hour plane ride away.

So yeah, that’s 2 cents on a quite personal matter. To those currently in LDRs, perhaps you’ll understand what I am trying to say and I wish you the best of luck.

To those contemplating whether or not it’s worth it - it is one of the best things you will ever experience. To those that look down upon it, maybe it’s time to become more open-minded to some things? source: http://fyeahlongdistancerelationships.tumblr.com/post/27660204208/dissevered

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