Make me a promise

Can you do me a favor? make me a promise. I know promises are hard to keep, but make me a promise. Promise me genuineness. Promise me that I can always talk to you no matter what our relationship status is. Promise me you’ll never leave for reasons unexplained or unjustified. Promise me that I can always talk to you whenever I need you, about whatever I need to talk to you about. Promise me that if something happened between us, you won’t say things that aren’t true. Promise me that I won’t be like the anybody else to you. Promise me that I will never be a regret. Promise you wont lie to me, just to make things seem like their okay. Promise that if I do something wrong you’ll talk to me about it. Promise to never take anyone’s word over mine. Promise me that the moment you start to not love me anymore, you’ll tell me and last but not least, promise me that you’ll love me with all you have, because I promise to love you the same. ♥

How do you heal a broken heart? ♥

No one enters a serious romantic anticipating a breakup, Right? But it can happen out of the blue. And no relationship is exempted from it. Breaking up with someone you deeply care about can mean a bitter fall from the heights of joy to the depths of rejection.

Dreams can turn to nightmares and desires in depression. However, a broken heart need not leave you in pieces. I hope that this entry could be a big help for those who’s hearts a broken..

Don’t fall apart. Smile, even though you’re saying this lines to him/her, “ I’m sorry you feel this way. I was hoping our relationship would be a long-term one. But I respect you too much to try to force you love me I hope we can remain friends, but the most important things is to allow God to lead us. ” This speech can blow the other person away, that’s for sure. Idk if it’s okay that you’ll be friends pa with your EX, but for me it’s really necessary for the both of you to vend alone.

Paving the way for a continuing friendship is okay but if youre the one who’s been left behind eh it’s not a good idea.. You’ll get hurt if may kwenekwento siya sayo na new love niya. Urg, that’s really painful. So stay away muna from that person. You’ll never learn to move on if you’ll continue to dwell with that person. But you don’t have to part as enemies. :│

Don’t do something foolish. A breakup is not the end of the world, regardless of your pain the feelings of rejection are temporary. So don’t do something impulsively that mat alter your life significantly. Unconsciously you may feel that if you do something traumatic, your EX will feel sorry for you and come back but think again. Instead, your foolish actions are a message to the person that you are unstable and that breakup was probably a good idea. Did you get my point?

Don’t try to get back at the person who has rejected you. Words said at the time of breakup can be deadly. Gaano ka man nasaktan o kagalit because of the way you have been treated, you can never resurrect a friendship. And you may end up being the person hurt ng sobra-sobra. :(

Don’t Beg. Oh ___________, I just can’t live without you. You mean everything to me. Please, please… If that’s your attitude eh that person may end up avoiding you because that person can’t take the guilt feeling that you caused. No matter what you think, you can live without that person! I bet! You may not feel that you can, but YOU CAN! Keep telling it to yourself.

Don’t isolate yourself after a breakup. When you’re hurting, you need friends who will support you. Allow your friends to comfort you. You may want to spend some time alone to sort out your feelings, but as soon as possible, get back into reality. Do things that you enjoy. :)) Keep Busy. Set new goals and move on. Healing will come much more quickly this way.

Grieve over your loss. The more serious your relationship, the more painful a breakup will be and the more you need time to grieve. At first may deny that the breakup is actually happening to everyone. As it begins to dawn upon you that this breakup is real and you may experience anger towards the person. Blaming yourself for what has happened. “ If Only..” You may need to discuss your feelings with others so they can help you sort out the reality of the situation from irrational thoughts.

Talk about what you did or didn’t do to cause the breakup. Don’t blame others, this will only add feelings of guilt to your load of grief. Acceptance, taking over and accept the fact that you were not bound for each other. The best thing that I did when the full impacts hits me is to have a GOOD LONG CRY. Sob your heart out. It really works for me..

Don’t jump immediately into another relationship. You need time to heal. Because you are used to being close to another person, you now may crave for the feeling of being happy even for a while. And dito na pumapasok ang word na panakip butas. You’re trying to look for someone who’s available to you that gives you a sense of contentment or feeling of completeness.

Practice some positive SELF-TALK. Remind yourself of all your good qualities.

Treat the other person kindly. There’s a saying na Kapag binato ka ng Bato eh batuhin mo ng tinapay. This will make him/her feel ashamed of himself/herself and God will surely reward you for that. :)) Say something nice about that person. I have a feeling it will surprise him/her and you will probably find feelings of rejection will heal faster when bathe in a positive sprit.

By now you may be thinking, that I could never react to a breakup in a manner that is so cool and calm but I’ve been through it. Yes, I could never react the way you understand it but na feel ko na din yan. At di ka nagiisa. Sometimes we let our anger to rule over us and most of us allow our feelings to dictate our actions. Breaking up causes feelings of anger, rejection and revenge. Too often, without realizing it, we react negatively.

In the cruel world of LOVE, we’ve learned that promises aren’t contracts, kisses aren’t assurance, and sweet words aren’t guarantees. Big hugs aren’t bonds and that NOTHING’S permanent in this life. One day, he’s mine, the next day, he’s GONE. Last night he’s sweet, the next day he’s insensitive..

Loving someone is not always about FAIRYTALES, HAPPY ENDINGS & FANTASIES. But rather it’s all about TRUTH & REALITY. ( Dr.Kuzma, author of Serious about Love )

Past is not as important as our future so look ahead and move on. Someday someone might come into your life and love you in a way you always wanted. Love reforms us but only GOD transforms us. Breakup is one of his ways to make us a better PERSON. :))

(Source: brymetkae)

YES! I'm inlove. lol

I’ve always wanted my love story to be like the fairy tales that I grew up knowing. Before I’ve always took time to look for that special someone that would love me, but listen this is not simply a matter of finding a man who would love me as I am but most importantly I want to make myself fit for that man so I chose to be single for months kaya sabi ko sarili ko eh I’ll leave it to GOD na lang because I know that he will make his own ways para makilala ko si Mr. Right and I know that there will come a time that me and my prince we’ll come and find our way towards each other at di nga ako nagkamali.

I couldn’t believe that I finally found him and that I made him mine. Ang swerte ko lang siguro o sadyang we’re just meant for each other. Everyday I was filled with so much love and found a good reason to look forward to each and every morning that came to me, his text messages na parang nobela sa sobrang haba pero punung-puno ng sweet thoughts na tamang-tama lang to start my day with a smile. I was thankful for EVERYTHING, the circles of his love that embraces me every time he tells me that he loves me and for a while, everything made a PERFECT SENSE.

I don’t know when, where or how did this happen, all I know is that I’ve fallen for him without any exact reasons. I just feel the air out of my chest and butterflies on my stomach whenever i’m talking to him. I have never felt this thing for someone else before.

My heart doesn’t want to fall anymore back then until he came. And you have to believe me guys, I really love him and how did I know that I love him so much? Hmm. Here are just some of my evidences kung bakit ko nasabing in love ako sakanya:

1st – Obsession Syndrome – I can’t eat or sleep because my whole world revolves around him and sometimes I caught myself day dreaming about him.

2nd – By just listening to his voice I’ll smile for no reason, yeah parang baliw pero di ba ganun talaga kapag in love. (Haha)

3rd – While I’m thinking about him my heart will really beat as faster and faster.

4th – Superduper inferiority complex – I get annoyed whenever he tells me or make kwento about other girls.

5th – I can’t stay mad at him for more than a minute.

6th – Sometimes I can’t focus on what I am doing because I get conscious with my actions kasi feeling ko nasa likod ko lang siya nakatingin.Haha

7th – Text Jealousy Fever – I can’t help but read his messages over and over again and I would scold him whenever he’s replying so late because I am thinking that his texting other girls.

So there, those are some reasons why nasabi kong in love ako sakanya. And now I want to write in here the reasons why I love him, I know there’s no such words para ma-measure ko yung love ko for him but I’ll put pa din my reasons why ko siya minahal. Okay let’s start.

Why Him? And Why Not?

1. He’s not that too sensitive unlike other boys.

2. Very understanding

3. Supportive

4. Intelligent – when I’m asking for an opinion, he shares his own thoughts about something, he just don’t say “Bahala ka” just to finish the conversation.

5. Has a great sense of humor

6. He knows what he likes and dislikes

7. He respects all my opinions

8. Playful, Creative and Passionate

9. He cares deeply about me

10. Lastly he is financially and professionally responsible person

Boys in love do the sweetest thing! And for me he’s the sweetest man ever. I’m sure you guys are thinking that I’m really lucky to have him but I bet he’s lucky too for having me. Haha ) well I’m just kidding. Actually we’re both lucky to have each other.

Even if I just listen while he’s on his silence I could hear everything that he wanted to say and I know that even if I utter nothing he intended to know all my thoughts and fears inside. He would always tell me that he could read what’s in my mind. And I admit we were alike in many ways!

I wanna kiss his lips because I wanna know how he would take my breath away. It’s amazing how we’ve turn each other on with just saying hello.

I know that we could never assure that things will be fine forever and every time na may tampuhan kami eh feeling ko lage eh ending na ng love story namin, he would always tell me that he will never leave me, and I wanna thank him for that, his assurance that he’ll always here beside me whatever happen but I’ll assure you too that I’ll be here always ‘til the end.

Because of him, there wasn’t a day that I didn’t smile. And I looked forward to each day thinking that everyday brought us closer to that happy ending.

I was once in a dark place, where people speaks differently and I was feeling isolated. I was always in the verge of tears.

Still, there’s no one, whom I can cry on, ‘til nothing left for me but irony,

Until he came, he gave me hope and I no longer felt alone, he brings light

To darkness, he puts a smile on my frown. I felt stronger knowing that he’s always there for me

That I found in him a LOVE that I know will last FOREVER.

I don’t have any idea how to end this entry so i just wrote a short poem for him and i hope that he’ll like it.

Broken Promises

I have learned a lot this year already. I learned that things don't always turn out the way you planned, or the way you think they should. And I've learned that there are things that go wrong that don't always get fixed or get put back together the way they were before. I've learned that some broken things stay broken, and I've learned that you can get through bad times and keep looking for better ones, as long as you have people around you who love you.